Self-Growth from a Sex Site – Who Knew? (Part 1)

It started rather inauspiciously. For research purposes (and okay, an admitted dose of curiosity), your correspondent posted a profile on Adult Friend Finder, a dating site better known for hook-ups than for marriage proposals.

Two friends had done it, with surprising results (one swore that the men she met were much more interesting than those she found on match.com), and your correspondent had been privy to some of the emails received. Suffice it to say, much hilarity ensued. Surely the entertainment value alone would make the experiment worth the effort. Plus, of course, there was simple curiosity: what kind of response would result?

(Much greater than from "legit" dating sites, as it happens. Apparently your correspondent's unclothed rear view is more appealing to more men than is her charming face.)

Yes, nude photos (tasteful art pics in black and white, shot by an award-winning professional photographer known to yr. corresp., as a birthday gift to herself) were part of the profile, cropped to make them anonymous. The profile itself, however, made it clear that this particular woman was looking for lifelong love, not a one-night stand.

Definitely not your average hook-up site profile, but composing it proved to be quite empowering and liberating – a highly recommended exercise in itself!

Let it be noted that your correspondent did not expect to actually meet any of the men from this site. Especially given the preponderance of cock shots. (If you ever find yourself wishing there were only a place where you could view thousands of tiny pictures of that most famous part of the mail anatomy in all its various shapes, colors and sizes, I've got just the site for you.) In fact, the mere presence of a cock shot, either in the profile itself or in the introductory email, was grounds for instant rejection. As a male friend put it, "Any guy who posts a photo of his dick is probably, well, a dick."

(Guys, if you're reading, trust me on this: no doubt there are exceptions, particularly if someone is really just looking for a roll in the hay, but most women who are out for more than that really don't want to become acquainted with your shlong until some time after they've gotten to know you. Yes, it's important, and yes, size does matter [though not necessarily in the way you think; it's really a Goldilocks and the Three Bears, "just right" kind of thing], but can we please have a conversation first? Ladies? Do you agree?)

Girls, if you're looking for a shallow ego boost, putting a profile up on a sex site has much to recommend it. Within minutes of posting the profile, the responses started flooding in.

to be continued...

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